Terry Achane reunited with daughter.

| January 25, 2013 | 15 Comments

Today SSG(Drill Sgt) Terry Achane was reunited with his daughter today.

It was a happy ending to Achane’s lengthy court battle to gain custody of the girl, who was placed for adoption at birth without his knowledge.

“I’m very happy,” a smiling Achane (pronounced A-chan) said Friday. “It’s 22 months too long — but the wait was worth it. I’ve got my daughter.”

The father and daughter will leave for Fort Jackson in South Carolina on Saturday. Waiting for them is Achane’s extended family, who can’t wait to meet Teleah.

So it looks like this is the conclusion to this who ordeal and that this case is bringing attention to the adoption laws in Utah that have some people caling Utah a place to “buy a baby”.

Hutchins has served as the president of the Utah Adoption Council and says he wanted to investigate an unsettling hunch.

He had employees from his law firm called adoption agencies at random. They posed as a woman asking about the process for an expectant mom from another state. The woman said her sister was unexpectedly pregnant, unmarried and wanted to place the child, but the birth father did not.

Hutchins recorded those conversations.

One agency said, “If he’s going to just be a total pain in the butt, then we can definitely just not have him involved at all.”

Another said, “I’d say literally over 99 percent of the time the guys just get caught up in it and everything, and then they find out they’re gonna have to pay $30,000 in legal fees, they’re just like, ‘Whatever, never mind.‘”

“Many adoption agency actually coach on what they should say and what they should do and what they shouldn’t say and what they shouldn’t do in order to keep birth fathers in the dark,” Hutchins said.

On the recordings, a counselor said, “Well, [the birth mother] won’t have to worry about [the birth father]. Let’s just put it that way.”

Another said, “You can tell the birth father anything after you give birth; might be easier to tell the birth father that you were in an accident, and the baby died.”

Also there is more on this coaching business.

Hutchins presented the transcripts to the Utah legislature saying the coaching from some adoption agencies is at the very least manipulative and wrong. He used them as evidence that the law in Utah needs to be changed.

“For example, they’ll say, ‘Don’t tell the birth father that you are coming to Utah. Wait until just before you are ready to come, and then send him a little text message, make sure you keep a copy of it, that you are going to Utah temporarily, but you’ll be back,’” Hutchins said.

Manzanares says that mirrors what happened to him.

“I’ll be flying to Utah to visit my father in Feb. for a week maybe a little longer,” A message from Terry said, in part. “In April, I will be willing to sit down and talk with you.”

On a final note.

Manzanares is the first father to fight the Utah adoption system and win. His name is now on his daughter’s birth certificate, and he has earned custody rights

Now it is at least two. Granted this is a win but with all the information coming from this case the people of Utah have some major issues to fix. Thank you to commenter JO for the link.

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  1. Twist says:

    Out-f’n-standing for the father.

    The rest of the article makes me sick to my stomach.

  2. Old Trooper says:

    While I’m happy he has his daughter, I’m saddened that the adoptive parents have to start the process all over, if they even want to do it, again, at all. It sounds like Utah has a lot of housecleaning to do.

  3. 2/17 Air Cav says:

    Yeah, it’s another tricky feel-good Friday story. Makes you happy and then pisses you off. I hope Teleah has a wonderful life with her Dad and the rest of her family.

  4. OWB says:

    Nice, very nice.

    The problem in Utah goes far beyond just the adoption issue. Visitation by non-custodial parents is just as bad if the custodial parent lives in Utah. They seriously need to overhaul what they are doing there concerning parental rights.

  5. jerry920 says:

    @OWB. It’s not just Utah. I don’t know of a single state that will enforce visitation for a non-custodial parent with any teeth. I’ve had more than one troop come home from deployment to tell me his family is just gone and the house is empty.

  6. valerie says:

    Nice to know there are actually divorced men who love and want their children.

  7. Jo says:

    Utah is swarming with predatory adoption brokers – some non-profit and others for profit. And they advertise nationwide, making sure they get the attention of troubled moms-to-be who don’t really know what to do. They are easily manipulated and coerced, as my website describes.

  8. Jo says:

    Do a Google search for Beyond Baby Tamia” for more examples.

  9. AW1 Tim says:

    I am so happy for Teleah and her father. I hope that both have long, wonderful lives together.

    I would also hope that there is some form of criminal or civil action that might be taken against both the mother and the adoption agency. This predatory practice MUST stop, and those participating in it made examples of.

    V/R

  10. Don Carl says:

    I can tell you, as a single father with sole custody, we get little respect. There are no swooning episodes of Oprah for us.
    Good for SSG Achane! How many men would gladly take full custody of their children are denied because the woman’s “right” to an abortion trumps?

  11. Heather says:

    God bless America! I have been watching this case since I first heard about it a few months ago. Congrats to Mr. Achane and kudos to him for keeping it classy and never speaking ill of the Freis (potential adoptive parents) to the media. Hopefully this case will serve as a springboard for some sort of reform in Utah adoption laws.

  12. streetsweeper says:

    Excellent!

  13. Ex-PH2 says:

    Considering the numbers of children in foster care who need stable home environments, I see the Freis as a rather self-serving pair, too self-important for words, and not really interested in being parents.

    Adoptive parents who refuse to consider anything but an infant forget that infants very quickly become toddlers and then young children and then smart-ass disobedient teenagers, and then they go to college, get jobs and move out on their own. They don’t stay babies very long, but you have them for life.

  14. OWB says:

    Just had to come back here to see the pic of “Daddy with his baby girl – finally” one last time for the day. Makes me smile each time I see it.

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